Behind the Scenes: How I Choose Which Wedding Photos to Share

Not every photo makes it to Instagram, and that’s on purpose. Here’s how I protect your privacy while still showcasing your story.

Capturing the Full Story

When couples trust me to photograph their wedding, they’re not just hiring someone to take pictures. They’re inviting me to be part of one of the most meaningful experiences of their lives. I approach each wedding photography experience with care and intention, documenting your wedding day in a way that feels natural, timeless, and true to your story. I never take that lightly. Each image I create is first and foremost for the couple; to preserve their memories, honor their love, and tell the unique story of their day.

But not every photo ends up on my Instagram or website. In fact, most don’t. And that’s intentional.

In this post, I want to share a behind-the-scenes look at how I decide which images are shared publicly and which stay private. Whether you're a couple planning your own wedding or a planner recommending photographers, I hope this gives you insight into the care and respect I bring to every event I photograph.

Telling Your Story with Intention

When I arrive at a wedding, I’m not just documenting details. I’m creating a visual narrative. My approach is rooted in storytelling, which means I photograph everything from the big sweeping moments to the quiet in-between ones: a parent’s tearful smile, the subtle squeeze of a hand, a deep breath before walking down the aisle.

Some of these images are personal, intimate, and deeply emotional. Others are fashion forward, editorial, or design driven images meant to showcase the beauty and creativity behind the day. All of them matter, but they serve different purposes.

What I Share (and Why)

The images I choose to share publicly often include:

• Couple portraits

• Ceremony or reception details

• Design-forward flatlays

• Event moments like first dances, toasts, or cake cutting

• Candid but widely relatable moments of joy and connection

These images help future couples and planners understand my style and approach. They offer a glimpse into how I document a wedding day and reflect the kind of wedding photography experience I provide for couples around the world. They reflect the style and values I bring to each wedding and help communicate the kind of experience I provide to future couples.

Once I capture the moment, I prefer to step back and let you fully experience it. Over the years, I’ve refined my approach to create space for your day to unfold naturally, allowing you to be present with the people who matter most.

What I Keep Just for You

There are moments that are simply too intimate to be shared beyond the couple’s gallery. First looks, morning-of boudoir photos, or emotional family exchanges often fall into this category.

My guiding principle on deciding which images to share is this: Would I be comfortable having this photo of myself online? If the answer is no, or even maybe, I choose not to share it. And if a client requests additional privacy, I go one step further. I’ll send them a small gallery of images I may want to post, and I only share images they’ve approved.

This isn’t about holding back. It’s about honoring what matters most: your experience.

Trust Is the Heart of What I Do

Your photos are yours. I’m here to document them with honesty, artistry, and care, but they don’t belong to my brand, they belong to your story and legacy. If a photo helps tell that story to others while preserving your privacy and values, I’ll share it. If it doesn’t, it stays in the gallery, just for you. My goal is always to make you and your guests feel comfortable and free to celebrate fully. Some memories are meant to be kept within the circle of those who experienced them in person.

I believe photography should feel personal. You deserve to know that your memories are in good hands.

Final Thoughts

Every couple’s story is different. Every luxury wedding photography experience should honor that uniqueness. Some want their images shared widely, others prefer more privacy. No matter where you land, I’m here to respect that and work with you to ensure you feel confident in how your images are used. If you're still exploring what your wedding photography might look like, I’d love to invite you to download our guide Your Dream Wedding Photography, a resource I created to help couples feel confident and inspired as they plan.

Because your story is yours, and it’s worth capturing with intention.